Generous Methodology: Evangelism

Often I cringe, and despair about some followers of Jesus approach to evangelism, and when Im in conversations with those who aren't christians I find myself apologizing for the previous acts of Christians. I wondered today, what it was that fired me up about what I viewed as wrong evangelism. It comes from a root of a similar subject I had with a colleague today. She said why is war and violence so often interlinked with religion, and I concluded that for people who consider themselves religious (using it as an over-arching term, without the negative Pharisee connotation we can often attach) it becomes a part of thier identity, or even their complete identity. This is why I can find myself (often wrongly) so protective over communication styles of the gospel, becuase I feel like if only non-Christians would see the Gospel how I see it, everyone would be saved! Because my experience of the Gospel is so positive and freeing, I cant stand any other way for it to be communicated. But at the end of all that I cant expect someone to communicate in the same way as I do, because they are not me!...and its prideful to think I have a monopoly on ways to speak of God. In terms of evangelism, I want to try and bring into my thinking a concept that apply to the members of a church. That is that everyone brings what they have to the table, for the guy who stands on a street corner condemning people to hell, God sees his heart and only he can judge him. Maybe someone will get saved through that, Im sure plenty of people at some point have, thats why more than one person does it. Then do I still think people should stop doing that, if someone has been saved through, if the Kingdom of God has been furthered through. Who I am to say the RIGHT way of evangelism is through friendship and witness. Its only A way not THE way as my pastor is often fond of saying.